Hi,
I'm Andrew, a student in games design, and an unofficial psychologist. So you have a choice whether or not to believe my words. I have no means of offence against anyone that I have mentioned. I only have an honest perception of the topic.
READ IF YOU WANT, I DID NOT FORCE YOU INTO THIS!
Before we start, I have to say that this topic may go farther than a Boy-Girl-Relationship, and deeper into a mature sense of love.
Love has been misjudged by many in the world and I quote: "Love would soon turn into a deadly virus if it continues in this manner." What I'm referring to is the apparent de-evolution of love in the present day. I do believe that the most common misconception of love is natural instinct.
Animals. Animals mate and reproduce for their species to survive. Animals even have sex with multiple mates. Animals survive to replace themselves by one or more younglings. Animals are... promiscuous if I may say so myself.
Remember in Primary school when we were taught that humans originated from apes. Yes it is believed by many that we have evolved from animals into what we are now.
It is from the idea of nature and evolution that our perception of love has changed. People degrade their humanity by resolving to animal behaviour in their sex lives. Having multiple mates, and giving an excuse like: "Oh! This is our natural instinct kicking in! We evolved from apes so this is the animal part of us. Rawr! Come here tiger!" Okay... the tiger part wasn't necessary but that's not the point here.
What I'm trying to say is that we behave too much like animals! Sex is what most people have drilled into their minds nowadays. Now it isn't for the goal of survival but for pleasure. People just have sex for the fun of it! If I may add, this means that we are worse than animals. Those people have no good reason for it except for their pervertic enjoyment.
The world is overrated that sex is love. It is true but not primarily about sex alone. I may discuss that next time.
Now I bring up another subject whereby nature may truly apply to our intimate behaviour. I guess everyone wants the best right? You want the girl with the sexiest body, or the boy with the atheletic body. Or if we talk on personality you want the girl who's kind and blah blah good, or you want the guy who makes you laugh and gives you everything you would ever need.
There are many different sorts of best. In nature males compete in various ways to attain the favour of the female. Yes so the weak... losers... fail and have to go for another female which may not be their best choice- they all look the same... Yes that may be why animals have intimacy with the female and rush off for another; they get bored and say "Ugh! Let's get this over with just to ensure our survival as a species... I'm not enjoying this at all."
That's a distrubing thought.. MOVING ON!
We humans are the same! Everyone wants the best for themselves. Don't lie to yourself! I know you dream about it. Everyone hopes for it. There isn't any wrong in it at all! Then why am I telling you this? Because I want you to think... What are you looking for in a best? Why do you want that particular best? Honsestly, people have to think about it before running into a relationship by pretending to be what they're not just to nab their best which would turn out not to be.
So for the best... look into your heart and find the truth and the one you've been searching for! Or else you would end up on a wild goose chase! No offence none of you are geese... And the best may very well turn out to be the victim also, as she is thrown away at the last minute when the guy realizes that he's going for the wrong best. So please, to everyone, be honest with each other and make the right choices.
Wedding vows are not to be toyed with, and that goes the same with Boy Girl Relationships.
So I end this psychology now and hope that I have struck you with a thought. A thought that love is misinterpreted by many and that it has yet to be solved. Science cannot explain it! Science brings about intimacy and sex! Do not let that idea take over your mindset. See the honest passion that God has put in us so that the world may become a better place.
The world is wrong in many ways and I question the debate on love.
That is all I have and good night!