Hello
This is my first installment of BGR Psychology. WARNING! Due to my own experiences, I may have limited or false assumptions on the matter. I apologize if it's offensive to you in any way. If you don't find it useful and take it as a fraud... it's your choice whether you
want to carry on with it or not!
Let's get started!
BGR. Boy Girl Relationship. It is a matter that drills itself into the minds of every teen, without any way of eradicating the thought completely. I'm not implying that is some sort of parasite- don't get me wrong.
There are many factors causing this outbreak. The main reason is maturity. As you mature, you tend to view the opposite sex in another manner- usually sexually. Then your thoughts deviate onto a more mature subject and you WANT to have sex. Sounds sick? Deal with it.
Another reason that I've conjured is trend. Although it sounds ridiculous, it sounds fairly true to me. Many teens aspire for a BGR because its "cool". Single teens will feel jealous that couples get to have something they don't, and they will strive to earn that. So the main thing is gaining superiority over others using BGR. Sounds like a sort of animal thing? Well I'll talk about that subject later on.
One other reason is exposure to sources sporting BGR. Everyone wants to be the hero right? Everyone wants to have their fair maiden or charming prince. So they think: " Wow! Getting a boy/girl is really easy! It's so cool to get a boyfriend/girlfriend! I bet everyone else would be jealous."
Last but not least. LOVE! I don't understand it yet and I guess most of you don't. We ask ourselves what it is and it comes in many different forms. I admit that I can't explain it without false theories.
Those are the reasons that I have deduced from
my experiences.
But we haven't even got into the definition yet! How silly! *ahem* GAY!
Well... A boy girl relationship is based on teenagers and young adults when they can still afford being addressed as 'boy' or 'girl'. It is a stage when a "boy" and a "girl" grow a loving bond and being closer to one another. Though it sounds like heaven, it is a fragile relationship if not maintained properly. Most relationships never make it to adulthood, but if they do... Its one exceptional bond that many don't share.
I know- You would be saying: "I'll take my chances!" Fine! Its up to you but I'll give you a warning... in my later instalments.
So a steady relationship needs loads of caring- which brings a question for you to ponder about. Are you ready? Are you willing to take the responsibility? Are you sure about it? Why am I asking this? Its because I don't want you to fall prey to dead love.
How do people create BGR? Well... from my experience Valentine's Day is when most of them are created, because of the appropriate occasion and the discounts on gifts :) It can happen anytime to be exact. Its usually created among well known friends of different sexes. But there are others that I will talk about...
Firstly, the boy/girl starts making friends with the girl/boy.
Then, flirting comes into process.
Next thing you know it they are in a BGR once they consent to each other's wish.
That isn't advice so don't take it unless you wanna.
Most teens go for that method and I would say that it is appropriate. But must there really be a method for love? Love isn't concocted by you yourself! True love happens but not as soon as you would expect. With so many plans, its terrible if the BGR isn't real at all! And you may get cocky and flirt with so many others. I tell you, keep your hands on your own girl/boy!
Basically, BGR is just another step into your mate's comfort zone. That relationship doesn't justify your means to move on to something worse.
I've seen teenage couples kiss before. It isn't the right thing to do while you are still in BGR, because its underage and you two aren't allowed to do it before marriage. Most importantly, it may spark the start of you-know-what!
You'd probably be asking: "Then what do you suppose BGR is for?"
I've mentioned that its a step taken from a normal friendly relationship into a stage where both of you are content and will take the relationship all the way into adulthood to carry on to much bigger things. That's the proper one, the improper one doesn't specify that it will last into adulthood. The improper one is merely temporary and could cause a scar for life- or worse.
Its a risk that one should be willing to take.
I'm finished with my first part here and I hope you've learned much about BGR. My later installments would explain the positive and negative outcomes of BGR as well as well as how to properlly manage one.
Bye!
P.S.- If you have doubts, post your questions on my tagboard with proper english which I can understand. And... I know you doubt my experience in this matter. I can read you mind AHAHAHA! Like I said, you choose whether you wanna heed this or not.